Sometimes I feel that life can be focused too much on pleasing others. I definitely fall under the title of “people-pleaser”. I’m always worried about what people will think or say about anything that has any relevance to me.
My husband will be the first to tell you that this “quality” of always wanting to please everyone can be quite annoying. All he has to do is ask me, “Hey hun, where do you want to eat dinner?” My response about 99.9% of the time, “Where do you want to eat?” Haha! I think I would shock him if he were to ask what I wanted and then get a direct answer. I think when I was preggo my hormonal boost gave me the ability to express what I did and did not want. The hubby would ask, “what would you like to eat?” My response as though I had been waiting impatiently for him to ask that very question, “A big FAT juicy burger!” Gotta love those preggo cravings.
So starting today I am going to be better about expressing what I want and think, instead of worrying about constantly pleasing others. So if you’re not pleased with this post then tough luck! Haha! I’m just kidding…says the people-pleaser in me. Guess this is going to be harder than I thought?
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Did you see this cartoon in the paper on Sunday? http://www.fborfw.com/strip_fix/
I kick myself all the time for not speaking up and saying what I really want!! Why can’t we do this for ourselves?
:)
Ahh that link doesn’t actually work. It sends you to today’s cartoon. Try this one instead (go down to Sunday, March 14th):
http://www.fborfw.com/strip_fix/archives/2010_03.php
I think it’s great that you are trying to be true to yourself. It is really hard to not worry about what other people think about you. BTW, In and Out rocks.
Keep up your awesome blog!
Not Fair!
I was born and raised in Orange County and last June we moved to TN because my husband is in the Army. I miss In N Out so much…. before I met my husband I was trying to be a vegetarian for about 18 months, and you know what got me to go back…my husband said he was craving In N Out, and I couldn’t just eat the fries or a “grilled cheese”
It’s very liberating to express yourself instead of always people-pleasing. I tell myself that there are two parts to communication: intentions and perceptions. I can only control my intentions, and the perceptions are out of my hands. So I focus on intentions and let everyone else figure it out for themselves.